Teachers and Parents need a Positive relationship for the sake of the child

About 4 years ago, one of my pupils shyly came to my seat and told me some really personal things about her sister and herself. I was really dazed as she went on and on, "Have you told your mum?,"I asked curiously. She said "no, my mummy's pregnant and it would make her angry and would make the baby in her stomach begin to cry." 

I felt so honoured that this pupil trusted me so much as to tell me all she did, but then, I knew that I had to do the right thing. I advised her about the matter  and quickly made her understand that her mother was a very important figure in her life. I made her aware that her mother should always be her number one go-to-person.She was going to be my pupil for only a session but her mother would be all hers as long as she lives.I called her mum and retold everything to her  including my thoughts about it(already letting the child know what I planned to do). 

Do you know, her mother was oblivious of everything going on with her girls? These two fast growing girls had begun to confide in each other,with the 10 years old sister being the adviser.Their mother thanked me and even mentioned she would quit her job to make more impact on her girls.That phone call was an act of collaboration by both parties,without prejudice, for the sake of the child.

Many times, parents blame teachers when they notice something strange or different in their child saying the child probably picked it up at school. Interestingly, teachers are also inclined to believe or even say a child's parents are not doing good enough in raising their child.From my little experience, children are bound to express themselves in certain ways as the circumstances permit; at school,home or a party.

I once had a pupil who suddenly started acting really badly at school and it bothered me so I called his mother and told her about it. It was a big deal, I remember being called back by his parents(it was a conference call), it was a long call. We all agreed on measures to take on the boy's behaviour which had even begun to affect his grades. At the end of the day, his grades got better again, he became conscious of his behaviour and everyone was happy.

Finally, I am a strong believer of parents and teachers believing in each other and working to make the most of the child, this way we are securing the next generation. So, I appeal to teachers and parents to acknowledge the duty and place of each other and create an enabling atmosphere for the child to grow both in character and in learning.

Photo credit: Augusta School District.